There is no more awkward place to be than in the middle, where you are almost there but not quite and far enough that you can’t turn back. It is in these periods in life that we are most tested and incur the most strain. Naturally, our bodies want to be in motion. We want to do, to go and when we are told to wait, waiting is like asking us to not breathe. It’s detrimental in our eyes.
How do I do that exactly? This waiting thing. Right?
What I have discovered in this period of the in-between is this-in the waiting we are given the opportunity to test whether our armor is able to withhold the fight, it is a strengthening period. Imagine a training camp, before a great battle; there will always be a testing period to measure your retention of information.
But, if every period of stillness was a test of patience, we would have so many more patient people in the world.
Consider this, what were you doing before this “in-between” period and what do you aspire to accomplish after? Honestly, many of our questions can be answered with a few moments of reflection.
We are constantly seeking movement and motion in everything. The moment we experience a standstill, we don’t quite know what to do with ourselves.
I say instead of praying for something to happen or for some miracle to take place and remove you from this place. Take time with where you are currently and give yourself the chance to learn the lesson. Life is a great teacher in that it will never allow you to cheat. You will continuously be tested until you have shown yourself.
This period of “in-between” is so vital for growth. Take steps to embrace and accept it, rather than fighting a battle you most likely will not win.
- Embrace your process
Your process is yours; no matter how similar your journey is in comparison to another, You are not that person. Stop torturing yourself for not being someone/something you are not. Be true to you!
2. Be alone
We are so afraid of this, I think even saying the word “alone” makes people cringe. Taking time to hear your thoughts and process them is so important. Literally, I believe every human being should have at least a day being completely away from anybody. It will give you time to realize how much we sabotage ourselves.
We will realize how much we hold others hostage for our problems.
3. Breathe, it’s all temporary.
Every moment is a phase. It will soon pass and the majority of the time you will not even remember, what you were angry about or even how intense your disappointment was.
Stop right now, and think of a situation. Compare what you feel now reliving it and the initial feeling. They are totally different. If you can engineer your thoughts to see how fading these encounters are, you will truly be liberated.
Love your time in the in-between, take to the uncertainty of it all and most important of all understand it is just a chapter in a very long book.
I would love to hear your thoughts about your current process and what steps you are taking to move to pass your obstacles